Body Language Read of Blake and Ryan - Easy Does It!

Ryan Reynolds, 38, and Blake Lively, 27, sexed it up for the cameras at the Met Gala in May.  As he palms his wife's rear, "Ryan has that proud look on his face, like, "Look at this babe I've got an my arm!".  There is a boyishness there, says Patti.  But Ryan's red-carpet approach was entirely different with a now-pregnant Blake at the Angel Ball in NYC.  "Ryan's fingers are tenderly curled around her back.  It is as though he doesn't want to hurt her as he draws her in!"

Patti gives the couple in May a 3 on the Life and Style True Love Rating Scale.

Patti gives the couple in October a 5 on the Life and Style True Love Rating Scale.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at

Body Language Read of Kim and Kanye - Ships in the Night!

Kim Kardashian, 34, stole the spotlight from Kanye West, 37, during a September appearance in London.  "She looks as though she could be there all by herself,"  observes Patti.  "It's odd that Kanye's almost hidden behind her."  Things improved at a recent gala - sort of.  "They're looking at each other and having fun, but there is still no tenderness and connection here.  It look so fake!"

Patti gives this couple in September a 1 on the Life & Style True Love Rating Scale.

Patti gives this couple in November a 3 on the Life & Style True Love Rating Scale.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at

Nines Tips For Self Promotion for Women How to Brag Successfuly So You Don't Look Like a Show Off.

                                                         Nine Tips for Self Promotion For Women
                                   How to Brag Successfully so You Don't Look Like a Show Off

How to successfully and gracefully self promote? Here are lessons in the best ways to brag in a politically correct manner.

1.   Be fearless and speak well of what you have done. Yes, there is a gender based difference in how men who self-promote are perceived and how women who say the same kind of things about themselves are perceived. But, that perception can ONLY change if women are courageous and speak well of their accomplishments without fear.  A good rule of thumb is make sure your not talking about yourself to seek attention, and by sharing things that you would find admirable in others and might compliment them on.

2. Choose to do things that are worthy of self promotion. Be courageous, take risks. I don't mean take on more tasks and be a workaholic, I mean be thoughtful in your choices. Spend your time wisely and with integrity. Volunteer for important projects. Help other team members. Work on committees, (You can choose to be on committees with important people.) Speak up at meetings with great ideas. Take the lead position on projects, suggest and spearhead innovations.

3.     Learn to tell a short self-promotional story.  “Last week the most fantastic thing happened... “I had the best week this week……”, “I feel so great about something that happened this week..” and then tell about one specific success. Don’t preface it with how tired you are. Don’t list all you did, or how busy your week was. Tell one very brief story. A heroes journey is interesting.  A recap of your to do list or rundown of all the things on your outlook calendar is boring. If you have not read, "The Power of Myth" find it or at least read about it so you know what a hero's journey looks and sounds like. Make sure you include a brag bites―pieces of relevant facts, such as clients that you’re working with, how long you’ve been in the industry, or a project you’ve recently completed. 
4    Be very careful of your tone and nonverbal delivery.  Look at how men get excited and make the telling of their heroes journey into a fun journey for the listener.  Don’t be haughty, don’t hog too much time. Think how men share a sports success,  “I hit a home run, I caught the ball, I made a hole in one" story and people actually ENJOY listening because they feel the pleasure and excitement the adventure and challenge along with the story teller. But remember, women have a narrower band of acceptable delivery options so can't be over the top and again you must tell a shorter story than a man.
5.      Send a thoughtful emails to a specific person about your accomplishment. Men will email what they have done to accomplish their projects and you can do. If you see a good example of someone stating and accomplishment in an email you receive model it. Don't send a group email listing your checked off to dos. If you are not sure how it sounds read it out loud or try it out on someone who can be brutally honest with you about how it sounds.
6       Make you work visible by spending time with people. Talk to people who can recommend you. Take influential people out for coffee or lunch, stop by people’s offices and ask what they are up to. Spend productive time sharing and visiting in the break room.
7.      Compliment and "brag on" other women. When you focus on others accomplishments and notice what is worthy of praise your energy is focused in the right place and your learn what matters. One simple way to give praise is with an introduction. For example, when you introduce your female friends and coworkers and business friends to someone new share their name and an accomplishment. "Jim, this is Sara Beckman, she just headed up the committee for our new quarter sales meeting and it was fantastic." "Tom, this is Morgan Tyler, she just spearheaded the new marketing project." "Karl, this is Veronica Mann, she works with our top client Prudential."

8. Ask other woman to brag for you. If you have established healthy reciprocal working relationships with other women it is perfectly acceptable to ask them to help you by giving a brag boost. You can even ask someone to share something specific with someone specific. But if you do this I advise that you always reciprocate. Be the person that says shares positive things about others.

9. Be a good listener. We like people who listen to us and often imbue them with good behaviors. If you want people to listen to you share your successes be the best listener for them. It will not only make you more discriminating about what and how you self promote but more importantly it is just
gracious behavior.
For other ways to look good at work you can check out other articles.

Five Ways to Give a Great First Impression
Nonverbal Cues of  A Good Listener
How Do We Know Someone is Credible Within Seconds of Meeting Them?

On a personal note.
When I was in my late thirties I was at a party with my fiancé at the time and someone asked me what I did for a living. I said, "I am a body language expert and professional speaker."
Later my fiancé chastised me for saying I was a body language expert. I remember going through a cascade of different emotions and revelations in that moment.
First  I felt shame at the thought that I could have been inappropriate and a braggart. But then I realized that was not what I should feel I should feel proud of being and expert. Then a stronger emotion took over and I was angry at my fiancé for not seeing me for all I was. Then I felt disappointment in myself as I realized, that he might not even know all that I had accomplished. I didn't even tell him! But, I did manage to do with him, something I had not done well until that moment, brag. I said,  I have several degrees in nonverbal communication, I taught body language at two universities. My body language class at Florida state averaged 150 students each semester and was voted one of the most popular college courses in the county,  I have been researching and consulting on the topic for many years. I have written a book on body language. And I have been speaking on the topic to the top companies around the world for many years. I am an expert!
I may have been inappropriately and given to much of a laundry list, but by god I bragged.  It  was a seminal moment. A water shed if you will, where I consciously took pride in what I have done and what I do.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at

Do People Make You Tired? Introversion and the People Battery Drain Connection

Does being around people make you tired? You may like being with them, but you feel like all that talking and socializing drains your batteries. Depending on your personality people time can energize you or make you want to go home and not talk with anybody.  I just read this blog post from an introvert. I get it, According to the Myers Briggs Personality Assessment I am an Introvert. Yes, that is a big surprise, a professional speaker and body language expert who is introverted. But many performers are introverts. We love performing! Its enormous fun. It just means for me that after I speak and socialize with my audience I need to take time that night or the next to recharge my batteries. I do that by reading a book on the plane home! I love training on both the DISC Personality training and Myers Briggs Personality.  It gives great insights for teambuilding, sales, customer service and dealing with difficult people. Here is link to another introvert's blog post.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at

Read a Real Book Before Bed to Get Better Sleep

Ever since I was a little girl I have read just before I go to sleep. The books have changed over the years but I still love to read a real paper book every night. But now I have developed a new habit that could be effecting my sleep.
If I watch TV in the evening prior to going up to bed, while I watch a movie I look up on my cell phone or Surface computer the director or the actors or the screen writer and that quickly devolves into me no longer watching a terrific movie, to looking up every interview of said, director, actor and screenwriter. Suddenly, I look up at it is 12:00 midnight and I have been staring at a blue light screen for hours. We know we shouldn't look at TV screens and computer screens or cell phone screens before we go to bed, but we do. It is interrupting our melatonin production thus the quantity and quality of our sleep and dreams. Here is the research.

Online survey reveals new epidemic of sleeplessness.

Date - April 3, 2014

Source - University of Hertfordshire


Nearly six in ten (59%) people in Britain are sleep deprived, new research shows. 78% of people are exposed to disruptive blue light from computers and smartphones before going to bed, and only 10% of people strongly agree that they have pleasant dreams. A new article outlines some steps people can take to improve their sleeping experience.

New online research, conducted to coincide with the publication of Professor Richard Wiseman's latest book Night School, suggests that nearly six in ten (59%) of adults in Britain -- over 28 million people -- are now sleep deprived and getting seven hours or less sleep each night. This is a significant increase on the 2013 figure of thirty-nine per cent taken from a previous study.

Richard Wiseman, professor in the Public Understanding of Psychology at the University of Hertfordshire, commented: "This is a huge rise, and the results are extremely worrying because getting less than seven hours sleep a night is below the recommended guidelines, and is associated with a range of problems, including an increased risk of weight gain, heart attacks, diabetes and cancer."
To assess one potential cause of the sleeplessness epidemic, respondents were also asked whether they used a computer, smartphone or tablet in the two hours before going to bed.
"The blue light from these devices suppress the production of the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin, and so it's important to avoid them before bedtime," commented Wiseman.
Seventy-eight per cent (78%) of respondents indicated that they use such devices during this period. Among 18-24 year olds this figure increases to a remarkable ninety-one per cent (91%).
"The 2013 survey revealed that around 57% of people in the UK were using these devices, so we are seeing a significant rise in the amount of blue light before bedtime," said Wiseman.
The survey also suggested that the vast majority of people's dreams are far from sweet, with just ten per cent (10%) of respondents strongly agreeing with the statement 'I would describe my dreams as pleasant'.
Professor Wiseman noted: "The dream data revealed considerable variation across the UK, with those in London and the Southwest agreeing the most, and those in the Northwest and Midlands agreeing the least."
Ten science-based tips have been compiled by Professor Wiseman to help the country get a better night's sleep.
10 science-based tips to a better night's sleep:
1) Banish the blues: Avoid using computers, smartphones or tablets in the two hours before you head to bed. The blue light stimulates your brain and prevents you feel sleepy.
2) The list: Make a list of all of the things that you have to do the next day or that are playing on your mind. This helps prevent you lying in bed thinking about these issues.
3) Tire your brain: If you are struggling to sleep, make your brain tired by thinking of an animal for each letter of the alphabet ('A' is for 'Ant', 'B' is for 'Bear').
4) Move your bed: You have evolved to feel safe when you can spot danger early and have time to run away, and so will feel most relaxed when your bed faces the door and is furthest from it.
5) Reach for a banana: Eat a banana before you head to bed. They're rich in carbohydrates, and these help relax your body and brain.
6) Reverse psychology: Actively trying to stay awake actually makes you feel tired, so try keeping your eyes open and focus on not falling asleep.
7) Wear socks: If you have bad circulation, your feet will get cold and cause sleeplessness. To avoid the problem, wear a pair of warm socks to bed.
8) Avoid the lure of the nightcap: Although a small amount of alcohol puts you to sleep quicker, it also gives you a more disturbed night and disrupts dreaming.
9) The power of association: Ensure that the same piece of soporific music is quietly playing each time you fall asleep. Over time you'll come to associate the music with sleep, and so listening to it will help you to nod off.
10) Do a jigsaw: If you lie awake for more than twenty minutes, get up and do something non-stimulating for a few minutes, such as working on a jigsaw.
UK Dream Data
The percentage of people in each region strongly agreeing to the statement 'In general, I would describe my dreams as pleasant' was as follows: London 13% South West 13% Scotland 12% Yorkshire and the Humber 12% North East 11% South East 10% East of England 10% Wales 9% North West 7% West Midlands 7% East Midlands 6%

Story Source:
The above story is based on materials provided by University of Hertfordshire. Note: Materials may be edited for content and leng

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at